What comes quickly to mind right now is how fast you could walk even when your grey hair started approaching that of KOFI Anan. You were almost like a millitary commander and me the new soldier recruit anytime we’d walk from Vodze to school.
I’ve not forgotten how you made me practice some little form of yoga every morning cos you felt my legs weren’t well straightened.
I remember the days I sat below your table in the village classroom at Vodze while you were teaching and whacking those kids without love and blaming it on their laziness towards studies.
You were very strong and too particular about things most people would not even stop to examine. Of course you were the village teacher of the new Ghana with the onus lying on you to set a standard.
Too much to say about the mounds we raised for yams and wateryams, the inspection of your traps and the cassava we planted on the leftover yam mounds once the yams were harvested…
But I really thought you were inhumane when you’d sit me in front of you (with my back to you), and give me those beautiful story books that I struggled to read. You’d go like, read it aloud. Oh! The heavenly stokes from that big bush cane that landed on my head from your hand anytime I failed to pronounce a word correctly is still fresh in my mind after these many years.
I’m glad one one of the books you used to teach me reading was your old and almost destroyed ewe bible. I was so glad that I could read it to you when you asked me to.
It took me not too long to appreciate the extra school you provided at home. You positioned me to be the unquestionable and unchallengeable village challenge champion in the school.
I was strong enough by the time it got clear to me that I had to scheme up plans to hustle and still do well in school.
You failed in giving us the money we’d have wanted as kids but you trained our muscles and minds to grind and get our own. You never pampered us except for the sure boiled egg on our birthdays (and sometimes rice with enough tomato sauce and sardines).
Teacher, Mr Deku, Papa, your eyes are now dim and sadly almost gone. your once neatly grey hair is losing its beauty and your strength is no more. Now the man who could tell who’s entering by their footsteps struggles to differentiate between our voices on the phone. You continue conversations began with one sibling with the other unknowingly until you’re prompted (it’s expected, you’re old we are numerous).
Your one thing I’m proud of – your utmost love for truth. I remember when you’d repeat, “If there is anything I’m scared to die for, it is a lie and if there’s anything I’m ever ready to die for, it is truth”. Oh! How many times you’d cane us until we confess our misdeeds. Like magic, your wrath ceases once we accept that we were wrong.
You’ve never been perfect and you are not the type who’d call regularly to check on your children (especially we the boys as was gathered from my small research). But I think I can still have so much I’d be grateful for.
You built us into independent people who value integrity, hardwork, and love for people. I really hated how many visitors you’d receive, the people you’d always greet at times and how many funerals you’d attend. To be frank, I still hate the funeral bit but in all of it, I learned one thing: ‘that people matter’.
I wish you well in the short stretch of life ahead of you. I’m glad you have hope for life after here. In all things, wait to give infest my kids with your warm and rich smile and laughter before you go wherever you’re walking to.
I have never said I love you and I cry I as I write this; “I love you dad”!
May God bless and keep you in strength and peace.